The Secret to Being Thankful (2021)
How is it that a holiday centered around giving thanks often leaves us feeling quite the opposite? Take a breather and learn how to survive by being thankful.
Transcript
This weekend may be one of the most important weekends for you to be in church. Because, today, you can make a decision that’ll not only change your holiday season, but maybe even your whole life.
This week, most of you will gather with family and friends and celebrate Thanksgiving. Some of it will be fun, sentimental, even wonderful.
And then as soon as you’re done with Thanksgiving, it’s like a gun goes off and crazy explodes everywhere. Black Friday starts on Wednesday now! You fight crowds. You trample grandmas to buy doorbusters. Then Cyber Monday hits. Your laptop starts smoking because you’re using it so much. Your credit cards are crying out for mercy.
Literally, in the next month, you will likely buy more than you bought in the previous 11 months.
You’ve got to buy gifts
You have to decorate your house
You have to go to parties. So, not only do you buy more, but you eat more.
Some of you have to work more because this is a busy season.
And, as if that wasn’t enough stress, they let the kids out of school.
In fact, research shows that we are entering into the most stressful time of the year. So, I want to ask you: What do you want the condition of your heart to be at the end of all this? Do you want it to be exhausted, depleted, stressed? Or do you want a sense of wonder and peace, where you can say, “This Christmas, I felt like a did it right.”
Today, we’re going to talk about the one thing you can do to make the difference. If you decide to do this one thing, it can change your whole holiday season.
I love this sermon because I first heard it 30 years ago from my pastor, Kenton Beshore, and it has stuck with me ever since. It’s fun, it’s got a little attitude, and it even has audience participation in it.
This sermon has become a bit of a Thanksgiving tradition around here. Or at least, it would have been, except I had the unfortunate timing of introducing it right before a global pandemic. So, today, I’m bringing it back, baby!
ONE THING – THE GARDEN & SATAN’S LIES
What’s the one thing that nobody has? Enough
Some of you have more. Some have less. But none of us seem to have enough. We always want more.
More money
More success
More likes
More stuff
But more does not equal enough. More just makes you want more.
Why is it that we always want more? The Bible answers that in the very first stories about creation. It says that when God created us, the world was perfect. We lived in a world of yes, where God provided everything we needed.
However, at the very center of the Garden, there was one place where God said no… because he wanted us to trust him.
And then the Tempter came and said, “Did God really say…” He wants us to doubt God’s truthfulness. Can we really trust God to tell us the truth?
But the second question was even more hideous: “Is God really good? I mean. He’s withholding something from you. The one thing you don’t have is the one thing you need. And if you could have that one thing, then you would be significant. You would be powerful. You would be like God.”
Then the third temptation is, “You can’t trust God. You should not live in humble dependence on him. Just take it yourself, because then you will become everything you want to be.”
Do you see Satan’s diabolical plot? Satan’s great temptation every day is for you to take your eyes off the many things your loving, heavenly Father has given you and to focus on the one thing that you don’t have. Nowhere is that more prevalent than during Christmas season.
GETTING WHAT YOU WANT – THE ISRAELITES
So… What if you got everything you wanted? What would it do for you? Well, you’d probably say, “I would be happy. I would finally have enough.” No! You’d have more, but you wouldn’t have enough.
God went out of his way to answer this question, “What would happen if we got everything we wanted?” It’s right there in the Bible says and it’s terrifying.
God tells the story of his people, the Israelites. Around 1,500 BC, they were slaves in Egypt. If you were a slave, what is the one thing that you would want more than anything else? Freedom. “If we could be free, then we would be happy.” So, God freed them. But they weren’t happy; they weren’t content.
They said, “If we could have wealth. We’ve been living in poverty and slavery.” So, God enriched his people with money, livestock, and possessions. Even then, they weren’t satisfied.
They said, “If we could have hope, a promise that good things would come to us, then we’d be happy.” So, God said that he would give them a promised land and a promised life. But they still weren’t content.
Then, in the desert, God provided food and water for 2 million people. He gave them manna, which was the perfect traveling food. You think chicken in tin foil is travel food? Nah, this stuff was perfect. It was a thin nutrient-rich, wafer that would just show up on the ground every morning.
But they complained about the manna. They prepared it every way they could. They had:
Baked manna
Boiled manna
Fried manna
They had manna on a stick
They had manna burgers
They had manicotti
They had manna-banana cream pie
With all of that, they still complained to God. They whined. “If you would just give us meat…then we would never want for anything else.” So, God literally had quail fly into the desert. They are knee-deep in quail—a total miracle. And still, they weren’t grateful, and they complained.
And that complaining attitude created a plague in their body, and it killed them. This is what is says in Numbers 11, “Therefore, the place was named Kibroth Hattaavah (which means ‘Graves of Craving’), because there they buried the people who had craved other food.”
What happens to us when we get everything we want? We die in a grave of craving. You may have more, but you never have enough.
THE SOLUTION - THANKFULNESS
Do you know how to save yourself from a grave of craving? It’s actually one of the most repeated phrases in Scripture. Let’s read this together. “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.” Let’s read it again. Punch it out! “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.”
Why is this one of the most repeated phrases in the Bible? The obvious answer is because we need to see it all the time! Because look at what it does against Satan’s great three lies.
“Did God really say that? He’s not telling you the truth.”
Give thanks to the Lord.
“God’s not really good. He’s holding out on you.”
for he is good
“You can’t trust him. Trust in yourself.”
his love endures forever
One of the best things you can say during this season is “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.” Let’s say it all together again. “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.”
SAYING THANK YOU
Now, we move into the audience participation part of the sermon. Are you ready for that? Loosen up. Shake it out. Get ready. I want to teach you how to be a thankful person.
First, look at Psalm 100 verse 4, “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name.”
We can actually enter into God’s presence using thankfulness. What do I mean by that? Take a look at this verse in the Message paraphrase Bible, “Enter with the password: Thank you!” You literally enter into God’s presence by saying thank you.
So, we’re gonna practice it right now. I’m gonna give you a scenario, you’re gonna say out loud “thank you”.
When you taste something that’s really good. God didn’t have to give you tastebuds, but he did. And you just enjoy it, you say… Thank you [With a little more gusto]
When you want to do something, and your body reacts and does it. You can’t help but look to God and say… Thank you
When you go to work, and you can do things and receive a paycheck, you say… Thank you
When your heart beats 100,000 times a day, you say… Thank you
When you don’t have to live in Wisconsin, you say… Thank you
COMPLAINING
Now, what happens when we don’t thank God? Take a look at this verse in Romans 1:21: “For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile, and their foolish hearts were darkened.”
When we are thankful, we walk into the presence of God. But when we complain, when we whine, when we don’t thank God, we literally become dark-hearted fools.
So, how many of you have complained or whined this week? We’re gonna do a mass confession here because it’s good for the soul. How many of you have complained or whined about:
The weather, your job, or politics?
Complained about money or how everything’s more expensive these days?
Complained about your weight or your in-laws or your in-law’s weight?
Have you complained about your spouse that you have or don’t have?
Your kids that you have or don’t have or wish you didn’t have?
How many of you have complained this week?
When you complain, you move toward hell and you smell like smoke. And worse than that, you damage everything.
You damage your family.
You damage your workplace.
You damage your church.
And you damage your own soul.
DEFINITIONS
There is an alternative. Let me give you two definitions.
First, thankfulness is wanting what you have. Say it out loud: Thankfulness is… wanting what you have.
So, let’s practice this. I’m going to say something, and you’re going to say back to me, “I want my ___________. It couldn’t be better!” Ok, ready?
When you walk out to your car after church… And it’s a little beat up, something dripping from the bottom, and it has a strange smell. You say, “I want my CAR. It couldn’t be better!”
When you look at your clothes, and they’re a little out-of-date, and they make you look frumpy, you say, “I want my CLOTHES. It couldn’t be better!”
Then when you go to your job and get frustrated by your boss & the turkeys you work with, you say, “I want my JOB. It couldn’t be better!”
When you look at your body in the mirror, the body God gave you, you say, “I want my BODY. It couldn’t be better!” Really? Yes, even that.
When you want what you have, you are living a thankful life. You are rejecting Satan’s lies, and you’re abiding in God’s presence.
Now, let me give you another definition: Contentment is not wanting more.
Who’s more content? The person with 5 kids or the person with 5 million dollars? It’s obvious. the one with 5 kids… because they don’t want any more. [PAUSE] Now that joke kills in a white church. Maybe for a Hmong church, I should change it to 10 kids and 10 million dollars, because some of you are like, “Five kids, pffft! That was my bedroom growing up.”
The reason contentment is so difficult is because we always want to be there. We think we’ll be happy there. “I’m not content here, but if I could be there… If I could have that job, that income, that house, then I’d be content.”
But, you know what? There are people who are there, and they would tell you “I’m not content here. But if I were there, then I’d be happy.” Ya see, if you can’t be content here, you won’t be content there.
So, we’re going to do some contentment training right now. I’m going to show you a picture of something, and you’re going to say, “I don’t need it!” Are you ready?
When you see amazing Black Friday deals, you say, “I don’t need it!”
When you see the new iPhone 13, you say, “I don’t need it!”
When you see that your favorite clothing store is having a huge sale, you say, “I don’t need it!”
When you see there’s no toilet paper at Target, you say, “I don’t need it!” Oh no, that’s a lie. You totally need that!
Thankfulness is wanting what you have. Contentment is not wanting more.
If I gave Pang Foua a day of unlimited shopping at Mall of America, would she be happier, more thankful, more content? Hah! We’ll never know!
CLOSING: HARVARD STUDY
I want to wrap up by giving you an opportunity to practice thankfulness. A few years back, Harvard—smart people—did a study on gratitude and here’s what they found out.
First, they figured out what makes a person grateful. They discovered one habit that was common to all grateful people. They would sit down, and twice a day every day, and write a list of at least 3 things for which they were thankful. And then they say it out loud. Three things, twice a day, say it out loud.
Here’s the amazing thing they discovered. People who did this were:
More creative
More energetic
More optimistic
More socially connected
They earned more money
They’re more forgiving
They’re more generous
And they’re better looking. (Ok, I made that last one up.)
So, let’s do that right now. You’re going to write something down. So, pull out your phone or a Connection Card in front of you, and write down 3 things you’re thankful for. Do it right now. [PAUSE]
Do you have your three? Now, say it out loud to someone next to you. Go ahead.
I’m thankful for my wife, Pang Foua
I’m thankful for this church. I love RiverLife.
I’m thankful for my dad’s health through covid.
Now, you all are half-way to being more grateful people. And you’re 50% better looking already.
ENDING
At the end of December, what do you want the condition of your heart to be?
Practice thankfulness, and God says you enter into his presence and resist Satan’s lies.
Be thankful. Be content. And get ready for a different kind of holiday season.
